feet that he might not stumble or trip as he looks out towards horizons
beyond her purview. She is also a reminder – his closest and most intimate
companion – one who knows and tolerates his faults and by her yielding
gentle submission causes him to remember and thereby yield himself to Allah
for correction and guidance. It is she who sets this example for both him and
their children. The man who does not recognize these realities remains a
chauvinist tyrant and worst of Muslims, and has not yet experienced the full
potential of marital union and bliss; one reason many men unsuccessfully
seek such felicity in illicit affairs. This same man will also fail to treat his wife
as an equal as is the case with many Muslims, Arabs and Asians most
especially and unfortunately; this a grave cause of the current feminist unrest.
She is not his possession to be bought, as do Arabs with their ridiculous
impediments to marriage^10 and consequent deviations from the principles of
marital law. Both husband and wife belong to Allah, and are partners in the
holy business of marriage, which must adhere to the contractual terms of the
bargain equally and with diligence, so that the enterprise yields an acceptable
profit for both. A wife is also the place (womb) wherein a man's vision is
nurtured and re-enforced, as did Khadija for the Prophet – a refuge where he
is 'mothered', comforted, and nursed when wounded or in doubt. To deny
this, is to deny her essence and purpose, and thus robs her of the right of that
precious dignity attending her as his most compassionate consort and gift
from Allah. To consider her a mere outlet for lust is an insult to both her and
Allah. What fools men have become!
Should he fail to see the light she reflects or to listen to the music of her soul,
his womb will swell and cramp him with misery till he relieves the excess flow
of waste or nurtures her songs of new ideas, direction, true needs born of
reality orientation as her imam, or tender admonition. If this cleansing or
nurturing does not take place periodically, stagnation sets into both spirit and
body causing an estrangement from each other as well as their concord as
shepherds watching over the words of al'Mussawwir entrusted to them in
their children. Without reconciliation (effective communication), the
estrangement results in divorce or deviation of form, both of marriage and
10
The Prophet said that ‘the best marriage is that which costs the least’. Presently in Arabia
and adjoining countries, the minimum dowry for a wife is upwards of $50,000 USD. As a
result, many Arabs subject women to the indignity of mutah, or temporary marriage,
wherein he bears little responsibility, if any. What idiots!