mind, it is incumbent upon the Muslimah wife to assure her husband’s sexual
needs are fulfilled. Men, according to bodily strength and levels of
testosterone, have differing levels of sexual need so that the more potent a
man’s body the more frequently he requires intercourse. Furthermore, long
intervals between mating give cause for greater desire and opportunities for
fitnah (temptation) to overwhelm his will power. For this reason, the
Muslimah wife is commanded to submit to her husband’s call as a duty to
Allah. She must understand that her husband’s body and mind simply will
not rest until this ‘right’ of his body is satisfied.
Whether or not his wife is ‘in the mood’ means very little to a man in the heat
of this demand; her lack of interest when he presents his amour is nothing
more than an obstacle to be removed, especially in the eyes of a younger virile
male—as is also her clothing. The wise woman knows this, as also do
cunning prostitutes, which places both classes in positions of management or
manipulation as the case requires because men are goal-oriented hunters, and
their brains are pre-wired specifically to attain any goal they seek no matter
the cost. This residual strength reflects both hunter and warrior instincts
which women simply do not possess. However, to the latter’s advantage, men
become obsessed with achieving the goal s well as single-minded to the
exclusion of all other stimuli. This is the naturally normal estate of the male
brain, and is as foreign to the female thought pattern as is ‘High Tea’ on Mars.
The wise man will remove the obstacles with persuasive talk and gentle
cuddles, after having paved the way with the foreplay of romantic
attentiveness women attach to little things such as opening a door or merely
acknowledging her vital presence on a polite continuum. Unfortunately,
many men lack this wisdom, but even so, his lack of sensitivity is no excuse
for the Muslimah wife to refuse his call for her sexual favors. His call is far
more than a ‘right’; it is literally a need no different in import than are food
and water.
“By the One in Whose hand is my soul, there is no man who calls his wife to his
bed, and she refuses him, but the One Who is in heaven will be angry with her,
until the husband is pleased with her once more.”“Allah will curse those procrastinating women who, when their husbands call them
to their beds, say ‘I will, I will...’ until he falls asleep.”
(At-Tabarani +Al-Kabir, Majma al-Zawa’id )
“The issue of protecting a man’s chastity and keeping him away from temptation is