attentiveness and the man’s ability to provide security for her and long term
help with the children. Physical characteristics are not lacking in
prioritization but they are lower on her list as long as the pheromones he
emits are to her subconscious physiologic approval as an adjunct stimulant.
Regrettably, women assume that men are similarly disposed and fail to
comprehend his lack of interest in her sexually when she loses her curves.
Instead of being self-critical in assessing her failure to maintain the form
Allah gave her to attract him in the first place, this wife becomes resentful,
indolent, obstinate or melancholic when he instinctively responds to any lady
with appropriate curvatures as per the word of Al’Mussawwir. Many women
do not understand the situation or refuse to confront the dilemma honestly.
These ladies prefer to hold themselves and their men hostage to pretence and
its unavoidable fitnah. This sad estate does not reflect forthright sensitivities
or the attention Islam demands for knowledge and truth.
If a wife has disqualified herself as a desirable sex partner and cannot fulfill
the sexual ‘right’ of her husband’s body for this reason, it is her responsibility
as his sister in Islam to see that another woman can and will do so as his wife
in order to protect his soul from hellfire; else she should remain accountable
for divorce. This is surely comprehendible and no unctuous apologies are
required. The tide of male sexuality must be confined by the legal boundary
of marriage for the Muslim. If this is not done honestly and forthrightly
without inconsequent hysterics or emotionally driven ruminations, then his
involvement in pornography, fornication, self-abuse or hidden marriage are
inevitable consequences. These undesirable repercussions are especially so
today because of the lewd and provocative exploitation of women’s sexual
attractiveness in venues of politically-correct tolerance for sin, profit and
feminism.
The Wife’s Call
Taqua is the active pursuit of virtue and balance in thought and deed so as
not to exceed the boundaries set by Allah. It is the acquisition and practice of
adab whereby we choose what is good and beneficial according to principles
of truth and justice. For the comprehension of pious marital relations, it is
therefore incumbent upon all who profess Islam to acknowledge the following
truths: