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Dress—Personally, I will be married in a tux because the greater community says it is
the finest way a man can dress, and I want only the finest for my love. Medieval wed-
dings are fun and they do tend to be popular in the Wiccan community. However, if it
is a medieval wedding, please do let your guests know that Wicca is not a medieval
religion.
Asperging—Consider using branches of Myrtle as they seem to pop up over and over
again in lore surrounding weddings.
Smudging—Experiment with incense by blending herbs and resins in accordance with
the bride’s and groom’s astrological signs. There are many books that provide this in-
formation. A quick reference can be found in Wicca Spellcraft for Men (New Page Books).
Challenge/Outsiders—Here one might want to ask if anyone opposes the union to
speak now. If one does, that person can choose to stand for the wedding, but only if he
or she will ignore that objection after the Rite is concluded. If he or she does not agree,
they should be asked to leave the Circle. Including a final opportunity for the bride or
groom to reconsider is also a good idea.
Casting the Circle—Consider using petals from flowers that correspond to the bride’s
and groom’s astrological signs. Perhaps the Circle could be cast the first time by a flower
maiden or maidens scattering the bride’s flowers and then by a flower master or mas-
ters scattering the groom’s flowers. Those flowers mingling and falling to the ground
together as a symbol of the union being marked.
Inviting the Four Quarters—Ah, what better job for the in-laws?
Invitation to Lord and Lady—It is rather beautiful to incorporate the invitation to our
Lord and Lady in the exchange of varar. After that invitation, the couple could per-
form the symbolic Great Rite, only while the athame and chalice are joined, someone
joins their hand with a red silk cloth and then takes the athame and chalice away, so
they can kiss safely.
Chapter Comments
Further information on the Rites of Handfasting can be found in Wicca for Couples.
I know I have already said at least a dozen times that this is only my view of Wicca. I
know that I began this book by saying that as well. But please, please, please remember
that more in this chapter than any other place. What is in my heart might not be what is
in your heart. In all matters, but especially in matters such as these, listen to your own
heart first. This is not everyone’s view of Wicca. Even if it were everyone’s view, there
is nothing that says you have to listen to them.
o WB Chap 07.p65 128 7/11/2003, 5:52 PM
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