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∑§Ã Á’Áœ ‚Ρ˥ ŸÊÁ⁄U ¡ª ◊Ê„UË¥ – ¬⁄Uʜ˟ ‚¬Ÿ„È°U ‚ÈπÈ ŸÊ„UË¥H 5H
bacana kahata bharē lōcana bārī. bahuri lā'i ura līnhi kumārī. 4.
kata bidhi sṛjīṁ nāri jaga māhīṁ. parādhīna sapanēhum̐ sukhu nāhīṁ. 5.
Maina’s eyes were filled with tears as she spoke to Parvati. She once again embraced
her beloved daughter^1. (4)
Say, why has the Creator written a destiny for a woman whereby she has to
remain dependent upon others, and in this situation she can never dream of happiness
that comes with freedom?^2 ’ (5)
[Note—^1 Refer: Ram Charit Manas, Baal Kand, Chaupai line nos. 7-8 that precede
Doha no. 334 where we read a similar narration with respect to Sita’s mother showing
her love for her daughter and lamenting at the compulsion that a woman has to face
just prior to her departure from her parental home for the home of her husband, Lord
Ram.
(^2) The woman in a traditional household is supposed to rely on her husband for all
her needs. This means she is not independent. Lack of independence robs a woman of
her chance to enjoy the world and the life in it like a free person, because she has to
take into account the preferences of her husband.
The main thrust of this statement is that after marriage, it is the girl who has to
suffer the most as she is compelled to abandon the freedom that she enjoyed in her
home where she was born and brought up to go to her husband’s home which is alien
to her, and where she will be bound by its customs and traditions that are new to her.
It is a virtual new life for her. She has to make a lot of sacrifices and adjustments in
her personal life in order to fit in the new environment. The boy has no such
compulsion because he does not have to leave his home and hearth after marriage.]
÷Ò •Áà ¬ ̋◊ Á’∑§‹ ◊„UÃÊ⁄UË – œË⁄U¡È ∑§Ëã„U ∑ȧ‚◊ÿ Á’øÊ⁄UËH 6H
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bhai ati prēma bikala mahatārī. dhīraju kīnha kusamaya bicārī. 6.
puni puni milati parati gahi caranā. parama prēmu kachu jā'i na baranā. 7.
The mother became very agitated due to surging emotions of love and affection for
her daughter (because she was soon to be separated from the latter). But she managed
to regain her composure as she realised that this was not the proper time to lament and
weep^1. (6)
She repeatedly met (i.e. embraced; hugged) Parvati even as the latter fell down
at her mother’s feet again and again. The intensity of mutual love, affection and
respect between them was so intense that it is not possible to describe it. (7)
[Note—^1 Maina realised that she was grown-up while her daughter was still young
and of an immature age. If Parvati sees her mother in such a pitiful condition at the
time of separation, it will haunt her for a very long time to come, adding to her
already intense pain of separation from her parents. This was a time to show courage
and resilience, and not weakness of the heart. If Parvati is given a farewell with a
smile, it will cheer her up; wailing and lamenting will make her sad and sulk in grief.
Such a parting is never good. So, after the initial burst of emotions, her mother
decided to control herself and show courage.