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are relational at our core, this projection inevitably happens until the kundalini
dies back down again; or until the rational mind has made peace with the sub and
transrational sides of existence and the Self moves to the forefront of ones being.
This is so because we are naturally “lovers” and there is a fundamental propensity
to love an object (Guru, teacher, lover) “out there.” Whereas indeed, it is merely
the awesome love of the Self illuminating ones mind and body. Because of it’s rare
and self-perpetuating (self-initiating and autopoietic) nature we must as a society
learn to distinguish the difference between personal-temporal-earthly relationship
and ephemeral-spiritual transpersonal chemistry...and so clarify our thoughts
and emotions around these two very distinctly different phenomena. Creating a
language of the multifaceted nature of love.
The sociobiological evolution of the Global Brain may or may not have a
personal relationship component. It’s cellular, energetic, subatomic...and non-
local as well, although the effects are usually amplified by proximity. Not everyone
is triggered by spiritual adepts, it depends on ripeness and how one is wired.
Females probably pop more so than males in the presence of male gurus, because
of the sexual polarity and the hormones...sex hormones being fundamental to the
alivening of kundalini. Even the ones that don’t pop are “changed” but in a less
dramatic fashion when in the presence of evolved beings and Great Attractors. We
can of course pop without having any initiator or specific cause and yet if we reflect
we can see that our entire lives, the good and the bad and all that has happened
to us leads us to that inevitable threshold event, through the very nature of our
being alive.
You don’t need a tantric partner to have kundalini experiences, you can “open”
purely from giving generously to life and following your Muse. If you commit to
the challenge of your spiritual journey, you will go through these types of initiation,
even if your eyes never fall on anyone that personally kicks you off. Metamorphosis
happens within an individual but it is larger than the life of the individual because
it is beyond the personality...it is a process of species emergence. If it happens in
association with another individual (say a guru) it might feel like the ultimate love
affair, but it is of the realm of the Gods, it is not a worldly phenomena, hence
cannot be taken personally. At first we may interpret such love and bliss personally
and intimately identify with our heroic journey, but after many years we tend to
view it as a transpersonal force, more like an ocean in which we swim. Other people
who have not experienced this kind of thing, will however take it personally...they
will see “our” experience through the lens of ordinary sex and attraction. Thus
normal human jealousies, possessiveness, protection and envy emotions will be
lumped onto something that is essentially beyond all these personally inspired
qualities.
What about the ultimate gamble of loving and finding it unrequited? Loving
someone who doesn’t love us back is not such a bad thing, if we are able to use
that love to grow and not react in self-destruction. The pain from such an event
can help us to open and be ready for a deeper love. To be more grateful when
love arises, in awe of the miracle and the precariousness and the rareness of it