86 | March• 2019
INSIDE THE MIND OF A STALKER
triedtomakeherfeelvulnerable.In
theearlystagesItoldherthatpeople
were saying nasty things about her.
Then,whenshe’dsendmeanupset
textmessageinresponse,I’dshow
otherpeoplewhatshehadsentme,
notwhatIhadsaidtohertoprovoke
that reaction. I would then turn to
Carlyandbethehero.InhereyesI
was defending her against wicked
people spreading vicious rumours.
She started to feel unbalanced.
“I would phone her over and over
just to hear her voice. Then,
when she changed numbers,
I tricked one of her friends into
giving me the new number.
I continued calling her – some-
times 50 or 60 times a day,
sometimes at night. I would
get a fix when I heard her voice
and then hang up.
“Icouldtellshewasworn
down.Themoresheweak-
ened, the stronger I felt.
Whenshesentherbrotherto
my house to plead with me
tostop,Igotahighjustknow-
ingthatshewasnoticingme.
“I never stopped.
“A l o t o f i t w a s a n o n y m o u s
and whenever I did have
directcontactwithher,Iwas
always careful that there
were no witnesses to hear my
threats.Isentparcelstoher
doorbuttheycouldn’ttrack
themtome.Iwouldspend
hours working out my nextanyone believe me? People trusted
me and I got a lot of them on side.
I never stopped to think about her.
I only thought of me – and us.
“Iconvincedoneofmyfriendsthat
Carlywasacrazy,neuroticwoman
whowantedtohookupwithme.He
believedmeandhelpedmehackinto
her computer – which allowed me to
sendthesecrazyemailstoherwork
colleagues so they would think she
wasmad.Ithoughtthatiftheysacked
her, she would come running to me. I
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