CosmopolitanAustralia201507 .

142 COSMOPOLITAN.com.au TO SUBSCRIBE CALL 136 116

I used to fake it. Since I started having sex, I’ve probably faked it more than I’ve

eaten sandwiches. If you could win an Academy Award for faking it, I was Meryl

Streep in the mid-’80s. It takes some pretty specifi c manoeuvres to get me there,

and I was afraid guys I was casually dating would think that was weird. What do

you do when some poor guy you’re on a second date with has been going down

on you for 45 minutes and it’s just not gonna happen? Tap him on the head and

be like, “Hey, time’s up, I guess you’re not a real man who can satisfy me.” No

way. But as my relationship with one guy got serious, I became trapped in my

own lie, having trained him to think I could come easily and fast. He’d fi nish and

whisper, “That was great.” I’d concur but secretly be horny and annoyed. One

night, I came clean on the phone. He admitted he was upset, sighing, “I hate that

I’ve been with a girl who faked it.” We liked each other enough to start over, and

he didn’t fl ee when I communicated that my whole body wasn’t a clitoris. He’s

my boyfriend now and knows exactly how to make me come. That is the story

of how I stopped being Meryl in bed, and why you should too.

O, REALLY?

WOMAN-ON-

TOP: POSITION

MOST LIKELY

TO MAKE

WOMEN O

DURING

INTERCOURSE.

COSMO

SURVEY

Other

27%

42%

3%

To end sex more

quickly, because I

knew I wasn’t going

to orgasm anyway

Both

28%

To make my

partner feel good/

spare feelings

WHY DO YOU

FAKE ORGASMS?

faker

CONFESSIONS OF A

THE

CASE

FOR

FAKING

IT?

THE REASON WE

GO METHOD IN

THE SACK

Researchers

studied why

women fake

orgasms and

found a highly

cited reason that

might boggle

your mind. When

women faked

getting off, some

did it to turn

themselves on

and increase the

intensity of sex.

So despite what

you hear at

brunch about

how faking ruins

sex for women,

sometimes we’re

just looking out for

our own damn O.

ANNA BRESLAW FOUND OUT WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU ADMIT TO YOUR

BOYFRIEND THAT YOU’VE BEEN FAKING ALL YOUR ORGASMS

ORGASMS THROUGH YOUR LIFETIME. Forget wine: turns out, orgasms age quite gracefully!

PERCENTAGE* OF WOMEN WHO ORGASM DURING SEX 90% TO 100% OF THE TIME WITH A FAMILIAR PARTNER

20s 30s 40s 50s 60s 70s

32 % 32 % 40 % 39 % 35 % 33 %