11 BRING UP THE REAR
More women than ever are saying
that they’ve enjoyed anal sex, says Berman.
And here’s another reason to make anal your
ally: a recent study by Herbenick found that
94 per cent of women who’d had anal sex
during their last encounter reached orgasm.
What’s more, that number was higher than
orgasm rates reported by women who’d had
only vaginal or oral sex. If you’re certain
your partner is up for it, Berman says, just
remember these two key pieces of advice:
take it very slowly the first time, and use
plenty of lube. Try K-Y Yours+Mine ($16.95;
pharmacyonline.com.au). “It’s a great product
for people who want the best of both worlds- a tingling sensation for her and a warming
sensation for him,” says Berman.
12 COME TOGETHER
Simultaneous orgasms are about as
rare as snow leopard sightings. But they’re
worth pursuing. “Experiencing that pleasure,
where you both lose control at the same time,
actually builds up bonding hormones such as
oxytocin and prolactin,” says women’s health
expert Dr Christiane Northrup. To save your O
until she’s ready for it, use your breath wisely.
Just when you’re on the edge, slow down and
take two or three deep breaths. As you exhale,
squeeze your pubococcygeus muscle (the one
you’d use to stop urine flow). This will bring
you back from the precipice – otherwise you
may tense up and ejaculate, says Northrup.
Practise when you masturbate – aim to bring
your arousal from a 9.5 down to a seven on a
scale of 1-10, she suggests.13 BRING THE GYM TO YOUR BEDROOM
One thing worth trying: pilates.
Exercises that strengthen your lower abs
translate to greater thrust. And if she joins you,
even better – lower-ab strength helps her grip
your penis harder and experience more intense
orgasms, says Dr Pepper Schwartz, a professor
of sociology at the University of Washington.
Make it a daily session. Research from the
University of Mississippi showed that for every
30-minute increase in moderate to vigorous
physical activity per day, men were 43 per
cent less likely to have erectile dysfunction. If
workouts shred your gut, even better. In a study
in theJournal of Sexual Medicine, men who
shed five centimetres from their waist raised
testosterone levels by an average of 2nmol/L.
(Normal T levels range from 10.4 to 34.7nmol/L.)>“Experiencing that pleasure
where you both lose control
at the same time builds up
bonding hormones”
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