BE A TEASE
20 PRAISE HER LIKE A MAN
One of Gunsaullus’s clients recently
described how a former boyfriend would
compliment her curves, strength and sexual
response – all that her body had to offer. “He
loved her lower back and the ‘decadent’ way it
curved into her arse. He loved touching,
licking and resting his head there, and he
named it ‘The Courtyard’.” Sounds dumb?
Well, her confidence soared, reckons
Gunsaullus, and with it so did her libido. Get
the message?21 SHARE YOUR TOYS
Play nice with her – very nice. New
research from the University of Guelph shows
that using the We-Vibe ($169.99;wevibe-
australia.com.au), a vibrator designed for
use by both partners during sex, helps men
feel more intense penile sensations and a
greater sense of intimacy. Here’s how to use
it: she inserts one side into her vagina; it has a
vibrating motor inside that you’ll feel with your
penis, plus a motor outside that rests on her
clitoris. Then, go crazy. Add lube if you need
to, and try all your favourite positions – the
toy is designed to stay put, says study author
Dr Erin Watson. Its C shape enables other
creative deployments – for instance, it could be
handheld during a massage or wrapped around
your penis during oral or a hand job, says
Watson. Toys make great gifts, right?18 MAKE A SEX DATE
Sure, spur-of-the-moment romps
are hot. However, it’s a myth that sex should
always be spontaneous, says sex therapist Dr
Rachel Needle. “Life is busy and things can
prevent you from being physically intimate
with your partner. Planning ahead can build
anticipation and excitement.” Save your sex
session on a shared calendar – bonus points if
you label it with something that harks back to
one of your hottest previous romps. Then, as
the time approaches, amp up the excitement
with texts. “Start subtle with something like, ‘I
can’t wait to spend time with you later...’and
build up,” says Needle. Progress to something
like, “I’ll be home at 7:30. Will you be naked?”19 TURN FANTASIES INTO NON-FICTION
Everyone knows you’ve got a BJ
fixation. Who doesn’t, right? Her, that’s
who. “Assuming that your partner should
just ‘know’ what you prefer sexually is a
lovely romantic idea that just happens to be
ridiculous,” says Strassberg. In fact, simply
asking her what she wants in bed could
turn her on more than ever. Need some
conversation starters? A study in theJournal
of Sexual Medicinefound that 82 per cent
of women fantasise about having sex in an
unusual place, just over half have fantasised
about being tied up during sex, and 42 per
cent have thought about tying up their
partner. Thirty-two per cent have fantasised
about being photographed or filmed during
sex. Invest in a smartphone tripod.APRIL 2016^73SEXMICHAEL DONOVAN / THELICENSINGPROJECT.COM / SNAPPER MEDIA