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LAW 43
first
optionmay
be
quick
and
easy,
butovertimeitbrews
ugly
emotionsin
theheartsofthe
vanquished.
Theirresentmentturnsto
hatred;
suchani-
mositykeepsyou
on
edge~—youspendyourenergyprotecting
what
you
have
gained,growingparanoid
anddefensive.Thesecond
option,though
more
difficult,
not
onlybringsyoupeace
of
mind,
itconvertsa
potential
enemy
infoa
pillar
of
support.
Inall
your
encounters,
cakea
step
back—-takethetimetocalculateand
attune
yourself
to
yourtargets’
emotional
makeup
and
psychological
weak-
nesses.Force
will
onlystrengthen
theirresistance.‘Withmost
people
the
heartisthe
key:They
arelike
children,
ruled
by
theiremotions.Tosoften
them
up,
alternateharshnesswith
mercy.Play
ontheirbasic
fears,
andalso
their
loves——freeclom,
family,
etc.Once
you
breakthem
down,
you
will
havea
lifelong
friendand
fiercelyloyalally.
Governmentssawmen
only
in
mass;
butour
men,
beingirregulars,
werenot
formations,
butindividuals....Our
kingdomslay
ineachmanismind.
ScvcnPillarsof
Wisdom,
T‘.1;.
Lawrence,
1888-1935
KEYSTOPOWER
Inthe
game
of
power,you
aresurrounded
bypeople
whohave
absolutely
noreasonto
helpyou
unlessitisintheirinteresttodoso.Andif
you
have
nothing
to
offer
their
selfiinterest,
you
are
likely
to
make
them
hostile,
for
they
willseein
youjust
onemore
competitor,
onemorewasteroftheir
time.Thosethatovercomethis
prevailing
coldnessaretheoneswhofind
the
key
thatunlocksthe
stra.nger’s
headand
mind,seducing
himintotheir
corner,
if
necessarysofiening
him
up
fora
punch.
Butmost
people
never
learnthisside
ofthe
game.
Vlrhen
they
meetsomeone
new,
ratherthan
stepping
backand
probing
toseewhatmakesthis
personunique,they
talk
about
themselves,eager
to
impose
theirown
willpower
and
prejudices.
Theyargue,
boast,
andmakeashowoftheir
power.Theymay
notknowit
but
they
are
secretlycreating
an
enemy,
a
resistor,
because
there
isno
more
infuriatingfeeling
than
havingyourindividualityignored,your
own
psychology
unacknowledged.
Itmakes
you
feellifelessandresentful.
Remember:The
key
to
persuasion
is
softeningpeopleup
andbreak-
ing
them
down,
gently.
Seducethemwitha
two—prongedapproach:
Work
on
theiremotionsand
play
ontheirintellectualweaknesses.Be
alertto
bothwhat
separates
themfrom
everyone
else
(their
individual
psychology)
andwhat
they
sharewith
everyone
else
(their
basicemotional
responses).
Aimatthe
primary
emotions——love,hate,
jealousy.
Once
you
movetheir
emotions
you
havereducedtheir
control,
making
themmorevulnerableto
persuasion.
WhenChuko
Liang
wantedtodissuadean
importantgeneral
ofa
rival
kingdom
from
entering
intoanalliancewithTs’ao
Ts’ao,
Liang’s
dreaded
enemy,
hedidnotdetail"rm;Ts’ao’s
cruelty,
orattackhimonmoral
grounds.
Instead
Liangsuggested
thatTs’ao Ts’aowas
really
afterthe
gen»