Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

He did everything you like because you told him what you like.
My philosophy? Instead of telling him what you like, tell
him what you don’t like, and then see how he responds; let him
research and dig and figure out how to get to your sweet spot.
Just go right ahead and put it out there: “I’m not a fan of just
sitting around in the house on the weekends,” or “I don’t like it
when a man doesn’t treat me like a lady,” or “I don’t like going
to the same restaurants over and over again.” Then, as your
relationship progresses, watch his actions. For sure, you’ll get
his blueprint for how he conducts himself—you’ll see what he’s
willing to give freely of his own accord. You don’t like going
to the same restaurants? He’ll know to find new, interesting
places to take you. You don’t like sitting in the house on Satur-
days? He’ll be sure to take you out to a concert or a new
museum exhibit, or he’ll at least look through the newspaper
and see what’s going on around town so he has some sugges-
tions for what you all can do together. He knows you don’t like
people who aren’t family oriented? He’s going to bring treats
for the kids when he meets them, or even offer to take you and
them to the park for a quick game of catch or a push on the
swings, and no matter how uncomfortable he may think he
might feel, he’s going to go to the barbecue at your mom’s
house because he knows you require a man who likes and gets
along with family. Sit back and watch him: see if he opens the
car door for you, or pulls out your chair when you sit at the
table, or turns off his phone when he’s with you, so that he can