Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

And the more I asked the same questions of guys in similar situ-
ations, I heard the same answer, again and again. And each time I
asked them what could have made it different for the women they
were with, almost down to the letter, each one of those men said
the same thing: if a woman came to me and quizzed me up front
about my intentions, they would have known from the beginning
that I’m not looking for anything serious. They don’t ask, each one
said, because they think they’re going to run me off, so I get to just
string them along. And the one celebrity who seemed to be the
master of all of this said, quite simply, “I have enough of them so
that when I get the questions, I don’t have to answer because for
every one woman who asks, I have two more who won’t.”
Call this what you want: foul; wrong; inexcusable—what-
ever. But that’s how it is. And this kind of thinking from guys
isn’t just happening in celebrity circles, trust me. It happens
with everyday guys—doctors and lawyers, truckers and deliv-
erymen, too. Some of them have as many women as some of
my celebrity friends, and the women they run game on are just
as fine as some of the supermodels clinging to the arms of stars.
But if you’re a woman on a string of three or thirty-three,
you’re still on a string. And both you and I know that’s not a
good place to be.
Your objective is to avoid being on the string.
The first step, I think, is to get over the fear of losing a man
by confronting him. Just stop being afraid, already. The most
successful people in this world recognize that taking chances to