Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

get what they want is much more productive than sitting around
being too scared to take a shot. The same philosophy can easily
be applied to dating: if putting your requirements on the table
means you risk him walking away, it’s a risk you have to take.
Because that fear can trip you up every time; all too many of
you let the guy get away with disrespecting you, putting in
minimal effort and holding out on the commitment to you
because you’re afraid he’s going to walk away and you’ll be
alone again. And we men? We recognize this and play on it, big
time. Know this: the game is old, and it’s not ever going to
change. My sons will do it the same way because they can and
there will be women who allow it to happen. But you can cer-
tainly know the rules up front, and change up your strategy, so
you don’t get played.
How do you do this? Start by making the man be really clear
up front about what he wants out of his life and his relationship
with you. You do this by asking him these key five questions—
questions that will help you determine right away what values
this guy has and how you fit into his plans. I devised these ques-
tions after years of watching men play women, and women fall-
ing for it, and constantly asking myself and even some of my
friends who are masters at the game, “If I were a woman, how
could I avoid all of this?” They’re great questions, too—the
answers will tell you everything you need to know about this
guy in your life or the guy you hope to have in your life. Asking
these questions will help you determine whether you should