Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

we like talking about ourselves, our answers just may make us
consider the woman who’s asking the questions in a different
light. We definitely want to know where our women stand on
these issues, too, but we’re not going to bring it up—especially
if our intentions for you aren’t pure. But in your conversations
around these issues, your man just might learn something about
you, too, something that makes him know he’s got a pretty
solid woman on his side. Say, for instance, he tells you that he
wants to be an engineer and he’s going to night school to get his
degree, and you tell him that you have a few friends who are
engineers and you can offer to introduce him to them so that
they can give some helpful advice as he works toward his new
career. When you offer that helping hand, he starts to think,
“Wow, this woman is interested in my goals and ambitions.
She’s offering to help me out. Maybe she might be the one to
get me to the next level.” And he might just envision including
you in those “next level” plans.
See, you’re getting information from him and plugging
yourself into all these slots—do I see myself in his short-term
plans, his long-term plans, as a part of his family, having babies
with him, helping him continue a solid relationship with his
mom, being a role-model dad for our kids, the whole picture?
But it’s a two-way street: know that this guy you’re quizzing is
listening to these intelligent, inquisitive questions, and calculat-
ing whether you’re a woman who is his keeper or just a sports
fish.