Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

And he could walk off the job at any time.
And you’ll have no one but yourself to blame.
Think about it: the first guy you slept with quicker than
ninety days—where is he? I’m willing to bet that you’re prob-
ably not with him. True, there are some people out there some-
where who had sex early in the relationship and are still together
to this very day, but that’s rare. More likely than not, a guy who
gets benefits early in a relationship, without having to put in
work or prove himself, leaves and moves on to a committed
relationship with a woman who puts him through some type of
probationary period to find out more about him. I’m sure that
woman laid out the rules—the requirements—early on, and let
her intended know that he could either rise up to those require-
ments, or just move on.
A directive like that signals to a man that you are not a
plaything—someone to be used and discarded. It tells him that
what you have—your benefits—are special, and that you need
time to get to know him and his ways to decide if he deserves
them. The man who is willing to put in the time and meet the
requirements is the one you want to stick around, because that
guy is making a conscious decision that he, too, has no interest
in playing games and will do what it takes to not only stay on
the job, but also get promoted and be the proud beneficiary of
your benefits. And you, in the meantime, win the ultimate
prize of maintaining your dignity and self-esteem, and earning
the respect of the man who recognized that you were worth the
wait.