rstand that our love is wholly different from a
woman’s love. A woman’s love is emotional, nurturing, heart-
felt—sweet and kind and all encompassing. You can slice a knife
through it, it’s so thick. And when she’s in love with you, she is
loyal to you—she can’t see herself with someone else, because
for her, no one else will do. That’s a woman’s love.
But for men, love is loyalty. We want you to show your love
to us by being loyal. That means that no matter what, you’re
going to stand beside us. We get laid off, we know you’re going
to stay, even if we’re not drawing a paycheck. You get around
your girlfriends, you’re going to say with great enthusiasm,
“That’smyyman. I’m loyal tohim.” Idris Elba, Denzel, Usher, or
the like walks into the room, money dripping from their suit
jacket, floating on air and glistening and all that? You’re going
to hold on to our hand a little tighter and say from the bottom
of your heart, “I don’t want any of those shiny, rich, fine men
because my man is the only one for me!” (We can only hope
that’s what you’ll say—smile.)
That’s loyalty—our kind of love. To men, they are one and
the same. The kind of love you require is beautiful, but our love
isn’t like your love. It’s different, though it’s still love. And a
man’s love is a very powerful thing. It’s amazing love. If your
loyalty is real and unimpeachable, that man will kill concrete
for you. He ain’t going no damn where.
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