doing. And if I were in their bedroom before all of the ugliness
from his cheating ways went down, I would have given them
what I’ve found to be some very sage advice: acknowledge the
ones you love. That means that if a man sees his woman had a
hard day and she could stand some more help around the house
to make the evenings go more smoothly, her man needs to step
up his game. If she cooks, he does the dishes. If she gets the
kids’ clothes ready for tomorrow, he gets their homework ready
for tomorrow. If she gets the kids off to bed, he gets his wife off
in bed by setting the mood—straightening up, running her a
bath, letting her settle in with a glass of wine, whatever it takes
to make it clear to her that having sex with the woman he loves
is not only a release, but an act of love. And she, perhaps, will
be more willing to reciprocate—not with annoyance, but with
the sheer giddiness in knowing how it feels to feel wanted.
But understand that no man is going to wine and dine his
wife every night in order to have sex with her. That’s unreason-
able. Sometimes, he’s just going to want to have you, no frills—
without being forced to feel like he’s added another “chore” to
your list of things to do. Every man needs that from his woman.
Every last one of us.
To sum up, we’ve got to have these three things—support,
loyalty, and sex—from you or we’re going to go. You can shop