Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

many different ways they slice it, women like “Did I Marry a
Man or a Boy?” feel like they just can’t compete with The Other
Woman—the mother. Those same women will toss up more
motives than a DA to explain why their man proudly answers to
the mama’s boy title: his mother refuses to cut the umbilical cord
and let him be a man; his mother doesn’t think there’s a woman
alive good enough for him; his mother has something against his
significant other; he doesn’t want to grow up; he jumps through
hoops for his mother because she spoils him rotten and takes care
of his every need. We’ve heard them all.
To “Did I Marry a Man or a Boy?” and all the other women
in relationships with mama’s boys, I say: stop coming up with
excuses, and recognize that he’s a mama’s boy because you let
him be one.
Yes, I said it: It’s. Your. Fault.
Let me tell you why a man will get up out of a warm bed
with a beautiful naked woman in it, pull on his clothes, grab his
keys, and get in his car at 10:42 P.M., with his children and
woman in the house alone, to drive all the way across town to
bake cakes doggone near the middle of the night for his moth-
er’s bake sale: because his mother has set requirements and stan-
dards for that man, and his woman has not.
Look, I already told you how this works: a man who loves
you will be the man you need him to be if you have require-
ments—standards you set to make the relationship work the
way you want it to. A real man is happy and eager to live by