Rules for Giving Choices
In summary, as we offer choices to our kids, we should remember five
basic points:
- Always be sure to select choices that you as a parent like and can
live with. Don’t provide one you like and one you don’t, because the
child will usually select the one you don’t like. - Never give a choice unless you are willing to allow the child to
experience the consequences of that choice. - Never give choices when the child is in danger.
- Always give only two verbal choices, but make sure the child
knows there is an implied third choice: If he doesn’t decide, then
you’ll decide for him. - Your delivery is important. Try to start your sentence with one of
the following:
• “You’re welcome to_____or_____.”
• “Feel free to_____or_____.”
• “Would you rather_____or______?”
• “What would be best for you — _____or_____?”