Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

(Tina Meador) #1

sopreoccupiedwithhiswork,sadthatshedoesn'tseemtotrustyou;afraidthatshewillneverforgive
you,afraidthathedoesn'tcareasmuchaboutyou;sorrythatyouaresecretlywithholdingyourlovefrom
himorher.Butatthesametimeyoulovethatheorsheisyourpartnerandyouwanthisorherloveand
attention.


To findourlovingfeelings,many timesweneedfirsttofeelallournegativefeelings. Afterexpressing
thesefourlevelsofnegativefeelings(anger,sadness,fear,andregret),wecanfullyfeelandexpressour
lovingfeelings.WritingLoveLettersautomaticallylessenstheintensityofournegativefeelingsandallows
ustoexperiencemorefullyourpositivefeelings.HerearesomeguidelinesforwritingabasicLoveLetter:


1 .Addressthelettertoyourpartner.Pretendthatheorsheislisteningtoyouwithloveandunderstanding.


2 .Startwithanger,thensadness,thenfear,thenregret,andthenlove.Includeallfivesectionsineach
letter.


3 .Writeafewsentencesabouteachfeeling;keepeachsectionapproximatelythesamelength.Speakin
simpleterms.


4 .Aftereachsection,pauseandnoticethenextfeelingcomingup.Writeaboutthatfeeling.


5 .Donotstopyourletteruntilyougettothelove.Bepatientandwaitforthelovetocomeout.


6 .Signyournameattheend.Takeafewmomentstothinkaboutwhatyouneedorwant.WriteitinaP.S.


Tosimplifywritingyourlettersyoumaywishtomakecopiesofpage 211 touseasaguideinwritingyour
ownLove Letters. Ineachofthefive sectionsafew helpfullead--inphrasesareincludedto help you
expressyourfeelings.Youmayusejustafewofthesephrasesorallofthem.Generallythemostreleasing
expressionsare:Iamangry,""Iamsad,"Iamafraid,""Iamsorry,""Iwant,"and"Ilove."However,any
phrasesthatassistyouinexpressingyourfeelings willwork. Itusuallytakesabout twenty minutesto
completeaLoveLetter.


ALoveLetter


Dear Date


Iamwritingthislettertosharemyfeelingswithyou.


1 .ForAnger


IDon'tlikeit...


Ifeelfrustrated...


Iamangrythat...


Ifeelannoyed...

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