Insteadofwritingdownyourfeelingsyoumayalsochoosetodothesameprocessinyourmind.Simply
refrainfromtalkingandreviewwhathappenedinyourmind.Inyourimagination,imagineyouaresaying
whatyoufeel, think,and want--withouteditingyourselfinany way.By carryingon an innerdialogue
expressingthecompletetruthaboutyourinnerfeelings,youwillsuddenlybecomefreefromtheirnegative
grip.Whetheryouwritedownyourfeelingsordoitmentally,byexploring, feeling,andexpressingyour
negative feelings they loose their power and positive feelings reemerge. The Love Letter Technique
increasesthepowerandeffectivenessofthisprocesstremendously.Althoughitisawritingtechnique,it
canalsobedonementallyaswell.
THELOVELETTERTECHNIQUE....................................................................................................
Oneofthebestwaystoreleasenegativityandthencommunicateinamorelovingfashionistousethe
LoveLetterTechnique.Throughwritingoutyourfeelingsinaparticularmanner,thenegativeemotions
automatically lessenand the positivefeelingsincrease. TheLove Letter Techniqueenhancesthe letter
writingprocess.TherearethreeaspectsorpartstotheLoveLetterTechnique.
1 .WriteaLoveLetterexpressingyourfeelingsofanger,sadness,fear,regret,andlove.
2 .WriteaResponseLetterexpressingwhatyouwanttohearfromyourpartner.
3 .ShareyourLoveLetterandResponseLetterwithyourpartner.
TheLoveLetterTechniqueisquiteflexible.Youmaychoosetodoallthreesteps,oryoumayonlyneedto
dooneortwoofthem.Forexample,youmightpracticestepsoneandtwoinordertofeelmorecentered
and loving and then have a verbal conversation with your partner without being overwhelmed with
resentmentorblame.AtothertimesyoumaychoosetodoallthreestepsandshareyourLoveLetterand
ResponseLetterwithyourpartner.
Todoallthreestepsisapowerfulandhealingexperienceforbothofyou.Howeversometimesdoingall
threestepsistootimeconsumingorinappropriate.Insomesituations,themostpowerfultechniqueisto
dojuststeponeandwriteaLoveLetter.Let'sexploreafewexamplesofhowtowriteaLoveLetter.
STEP 1 :WRITINGALOVELETTER
TowriteaLoveLetter,findaprivatespotandwritealettertoyourpartner.IneachLoveLetterexpress
yourfeelingsofanger,sadness, fear,regret,andthenlove.Thisformatallowsyoufullytoexpressand
understand all your feelings. As a result ofunderstanding all your feelings you will then be able to
communicatetoyourpartnerinamorelovingandcenteredway.
Whenweareupsetwegenerallyhavemanyfeelingsatonce.Forexample,whenyourpartnerdisappoints
you,youmayfeelangrythatheisbeinginsensitive,angrythatsheisbeingunappreciative;sadthatheis