- Itgivesyourpartnernecessaryfeedbackinalovingandrespectfulway.
- Itmotivateschangeinarelationship.
- Itcreatesintimacyandpassion.
- Itteachesyourpartnerwhatisimportanttoyouandhowsuccessfullytosupportyou.
- Ithelpscouplestostarttalkingagainwhencommunicationbreaksdown.
- Itteachesushowtohearnegativefeelingsinasafeway.
Therearefivewaystoshareyourlettersoutlinedbelow.Inthiscase,itisassumedthatshewrotethe
letter,butthesemethodsworkjustaswellifhewrotetheletter.
1 .HereadsherLoveLetterandResponseLetteroutloudwhilesheispresent.Thenheholdsherhands
andgiveshisownlovingresponsewithagreaterawarenessofwhatsheneedstohear.
2 .ShereadsherLoveLetterandResponseLetteroutloudwhileheislistening.Thenheholdsherhands
andgiveshisownlovingresponsewithagreaterawarenessofwhatsheneedstohear.
3 .FirsthereadsherResponseLetteroutloudtober.ThenhereadsherLoveLetteroutloud.Itismuch
easierforamantohearnegativefeelingswhenhealreadyknowshowtorespondtothosefeelings.By
lettingamanknowwhatisrequiredofhim,hedoesn'tpanicasmuchwhenheishearingnegativefeelings.
AfterhereadsherLoveLetterhethenholdsherhandsandgiveshisownlovingresponsewithagreater
awarenessofwhatsheneedstohear.
4 .FirstshereadsherResponseLettertohim.ThenshereadsherLoveLetteroutloud.Finallyheholdsher
handsandgivesheralovingresponsewithagreaterawarenessofwhatsheneeds.
5 .Shegivesberletterstohimandhereadsthemprivatelywithintwenty-fourhours.Afterhehasreadthe
letters,hethanksherforwritingthemandholdsherhandsandgivesheralovingresponsewithagreater
awarenessofwhatsheneeds.
What to Do lf Your Partner Can't Respond Lovingly
BasedontheirpastexperiencessomemenandwomenhavegreatdifficultyhearingLoveLetters.Inthis
casethey shouldnotbeexpectedtoreadone. Butevenwhen your partnerchooses to hear aletter,
sometimestheyareunabletorespondrightawayinalovingmanner.Let'stakePaulandTheresaasan
example.
IfPaulisnotfeeling moreloving afterhe has heard his partner'sletters, then it is because hecan't
respondwithloveatthattime.Butaftertimehisfeelingswillchange.