Byclearlyunderstandingthathistiminganddeliveryarebeingrejectedandnothissolutions,amancan
handleawoman'sresistancemuchbetter.Hedoesn'ttakeitsopersonally.Bylearningtolisten,gradually
hewillexperiencethatshewillappreciatehimmoreevenwhenatfirstsheisupsetwithhim.
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Whenamanresistsawoman'ssuggestionsshefeelsasthoughhedoesn'tcare;shefeelsherneedsare
notbeingrespected.Asaresultsheunderstandablyfeelsunsupportedandstopstrustinghim.
Atsuchtimes,byrememberingthatmenarefromMars,shecaninsteadcorrectlyunderstandwhyheis
resistingher.Shecanreflectanddiscoverhowshewasprobablygivinghimunsolicitedadviceorcriticism
ratherthansimplysharingherneeds,providinginformation,ormakingarequest.
Herearesomebriefexamplesofwaysawomanmightunknowinglyannoy amanby offeringadviceor
seemingly harmlesscriticism. Asyou explorethislist, rememberthattheselittle things canadd upto
createbigwallsofresistanceandresentment.Insomeofthestatementstheadviceorcriticismishidden.
Seeifyoucanrecognizewhyhemightfeelcontrolled.
1 ."Howcanyouthinkofbuyingthat?Youalreadyhaveone."
2 ."Thosedishesarestillwet.They'lldrywithspots."
3 ."Yourhairisgettingkindoflong,isn'tit?"
4 ."There'saparkingspotoverthere,turn[thecar]around."
5 ."Youwanttospendtimewithyourfriends,whataboutme?"
6 ."Youshouldn'tworksohard.Takeadayoff."
7 ."Don'tputthatthere.Itwillgetlost."
8 ."Youshouldcallaplumber.He'llknowwhattodo."
9 ."Whyarewewaitingforatable?Didn'tyoumakereservations?"
10 ."Youshouldspendmoretimewiththekids.Theymissyou."
11 ."Yourofficeisstillamess.Howcanyouthinkinhere?Whenareyougoingtocleanitup?"
12 ."Youforgottobringithomeagain.Maybeyoucouldputitinaspecialplacewhereyoucanremember
it."
13 ."You'redrivingtoofast.Slowdownoryou'llgetaticket."
14 ."Nexttimeweshouldreadthemoviereviews."