dowhatyouwanttodo,foryouandonlyyou.Youdonotcareaboutanybody.Iwasafoolforlovingyou.
NowIhavenothing."
"Wearealwaysinahurry"translatedintoMartianmeans"Ifeelsorushedtoday.Idon'tlikerushing.I
wishourlifewasnotsohurried.Iknowitisnobody'sfaultandIcertainlydon'tblameyou.Iknowyouare
doingyourbesttogetusthereontimeandIreallyappreciatehowmuchyoucare.Wouldyouempathize
withmeandsaysomethinglike,'Itishardalwaysrushingaround.Idon'talwayslikerushingeither.’
Withoutthistranslation, whenawoman says"Wearealwaysinahurry"amanmayhear"Youareso
irresponsible.Youwaituntilthelastminutetodoeverything.IcanneverbehappywhenIamwithyou.
Wearealwaysrushingtoavoidbeinglate.YouruinthingseverytimeIamwithyou.Iamsomuchhappier
whenIamnotaroundyou."
"Iwantmoreromance"translatedintoMartianmeans"Sweetheart,youhavebeenworkingsohardlately.
Let’stakesometimeoutforourselves.Iloveitwhenwecanrelaxandbealonewithoutthekidsaround
andnoworkpressures.Youaresoromantic.Wouldyousurprisemewithflowerssometimesoonandtake
meoutonadate?Ilovebeingromanced."
Withoutthistranslation,whenawomansays"Iwantmoreromance"amanmayhear"Youdon'tsatisfy
meanymore.Iamnotturnedontoyou.Yourromanticskillsaredefinitelyinadequate. Youhavenever
reallyfulfilledme.IwishyouweremorelikeothermenIhavebeenwith."
Afterusingthisdictionaryforafewyears,amandoesn'tneedtopickitupeachtimehefeelsblamedor
criticized.Hebeginstounderstandthewaywomenthinkandfeel.Helearnsthatthesekindsofdramatic
phrasesarenottobetakenliterally.Theyarejustthewaywomenexpressfeelingmorefully.That'sthe
wayitwasdoneonVenusandpeoplefromMarsneedtorememberthat!
WHENMARTIANSDON'TTALK......................................................................................................
Oneofthebigchallengesformeniscorrectlytointerpretandsupportawomanwhensheistalkingabout
herfeelings.TTTThhhheeeebbbbiiiiggggggggeeeessssttttcccchhhhaaaalllllllleeeennnnggggeeeeffffoooorrrrwwwwoooommmmeeeennnniiiissssccccoooorrrrrrrreeeeccccttttllllyyyyttttooooiiiinnnntttteeeerrrrpppprrrreeeettttaaaannnnddddssssuuuuppppppppoooorrrrttttaaaammmmaaaannnnwwwwhhhheeeennnn
hhhheeeeiiiissssnnnn''''ttttttttaaaallllkkkkiiiinnnngggg....Silenceismosteasilymisinterpretedbywomen.
Quiteoftenamanwillsuddenlystopcommunicatingandbecomesilent.ThiswasunheardofonVenus.At
firstawomanthinksthemanisdeaf.Shethinksthatmaybehedoesn'thearwhat'sbeingsaidandthatis
whyheisnotresponding.
Youseemenandwomenthink andprocessinformationverydifferently.Womenthinkoutloud,sharing
theirprocessofinnerdiscoverywithaninterestedlistener.Eventoday,awomanoftendiscoverswhatshe
wantstosay throughthe process ofjusttalking. Thisprocess ofjustlettingthoughtsflow freely and