insteadoftalkingaboutherown thoughtsandfeelingsshemakesthemistakeofaskinghimquestions
abouthisfeelingsandthoughts.Whenhehasnothingtosay, sheconcludeshedoesn'twanttohavea
conversationwithher.
Withalloftheseincorrectbeliefsaboutwhyamanisnottalking,itisnowonderthatwomenarefrustrated
withmen.
NOWTOGETAMANTOTALK.......................................................................................................
Whenawomanwantstotalkorfeelstheneedtogetclose,sheshoulddothetalkingandnotexpecta
mantoinitiatetheconversation.Toinitiateaconversationsheneedstobethefirsttobeginsharing,even
ifherpartnerhaslittletosay.Assheappreciateshimforlistening,graduallyhewillhavemoretosay.
Amancanbevery opentohavingaconversationwithawomanbutatfirsthavenothingtosay.What
womendon'tknowaboutMartiansisthattheyneedtohaveareasontotalk.Theydon'ttalkjustforthe
sakeofsharing.Butwhenawomantalksforawhile,amanwillstarttoopenupandsharehowherelates
towhatshehasshared.
Forexample,ifshetalksaboutsomeofherdifficultiesduringthedayhemaysharesomeofthedifficulties
ofhisdaysothattheycanunderstandeachother.Ifshetalksaboutherfeelingsaboutthekids,hemay
thentalkabouthisfeelingsaboutthekids.Assheopensupandhedoesn'tfeelblamedorpressured,then
hegraduallybeginstoopenup.
How Women Pressure Men to Talk
Awomansharingherthoughtsnaturallymotivatesamantotalk.Butwhenhefeelsademandisbeing
madethathetalk,hismindgoesblank.Hehasnothingtosay.Evenifhehassomethingtosayhewill
resistbecausehefeelsherdemand.
IIIIttttiiiisssshhhhaaaarrrrddddffffoooorrrraaaammmmaaaannnn wwwwhhhheeeennnnaaaawwwwoooommmmaaaannnnddddeeeemmmmaaaannnnddddsssstttthhhhaaaatttthhhheeeettttaaaallllkkkk.... She unknowingly turnshim offby
interrogatinghim.Especiallywhenhedoesn'tfeeltheneedtotalk.Awomanmistakenlyassumesthata
man"needstotalk"andtherefore"should."SheforgetsthatheisfromMarsanddoesn'tfeeltheneedto
talkasmuch.
Sheevenfeelsthatunlesshetalks,hedoesn'tloveher.Torejectamanfornottalkingistoensurethathe
hasnothingtosay.Amanneedstofeelacceptedjustthewayheis,andthenhewillgraduallyopenup.
Hedoesnotfeelacceptedwhenshewantshimtotalkmoreorresentshimforpullingaway.
Amanwhoneedstopullawayalotbeforehecanlearntoshareandopenupwillfirstneedtolistenalot.
Heneedstobeappreciatedforlistening,thengraduallyhewillsaymore.