increasewhenheisunderagreateramountofstressatwork.
Onestudyrevealedthatawoman'sself-esteemgenerallyrisesandfallsinacyclebetweentwenty-oneand
thirty-fivedays.Nostudieshavebeendoneonhowoftenamanpullsback likearubberband,butmy
experienceisthatitisaboutthesame.Awoman'sself-esteemcycleisnotnecessarilyin syncwithher
menstrualcycle,butitdoesaverageoutattwenty-eightdays.
Whenawomanputsonherbusinesssuitshecandetachfromthisemotionalrollercoaster,butwhenshe
returns home sheneeds her partner to givethe tender loving support that every woman needs and
appreciatesatthesetimes.
Itisimportanttorecognizethatthistendencytogointothewelldoesnotnecessarilyaffectawoman's
competenceatwork,butitdoesgreatlyinfluencehercommunicationwiththepeoplesheintimatelyloves
andneeds.
How a Man Can Support a Woman in the Well
Awise manlearnsto go outof his way tohelp awoman feel safe to rise and fall. Hereleases his
judgmentsanddemandsandlearnshowtogivetherequiredsupport.Asaresultheenjoysarelationship
thatincreasesinloveandpassionovertheyears.
He may have to weather a few emotional storms or droughts, but the reward is much greater. The
uninitiatedmanstillsuffersfromstormsanddroughts,butbecausehedoesnotknowtheartoflovingher
throughhertimeinthewell,theirlovestopsgrowingandgraduallybecomesrepressed.
WHENSHE'SINTHEWELLANDHE'SINTHECAVE........................................................................
Harrissaid,"ItriedeverythingIlearnedintheseminar.Itwasreallyworking.Weweresoclose.IfeltlikeI
wasinheaven. Then suddenly my wife, Cathy,started complainingthatI watched toomuch TV. She
startedtreatingmelikeIwasachild.Wegotinahugeargument.Idon'tknowwhathappened.Wewere
doingsowell."
Thisisanexampleofwhatcanhappenwhenthewaveandtherubberbandoccuraroundthesametime.
Aftertakingtheseminar,Harrishadsucceededingivingmoretohiswifeandfamilythanever.Cathywas
delighted.Shecouldn'tbelieveit.Theyhadbecomecloserthanever.Herwavewaspeaking.Thislasted
foracoupleofweeks,andthenHarrisdecidedtostayuplateonenightandwatchTV.Hisrubberband
wasstartingtodroop.Heneededtopullawayintohiscave.
Whenhepulledaway,Cathywasgreatlyhurt.Herwavebegantocrash.Shesawhispullingawayasthe
endofhernewexperienceofintimacy.Thepreviouscoupleofweekshadbeeneverythingshehadwanted,