28 Why PowerPhrases?
I don’t feel heard.
I need better quality.
You can say the same thing in PowerPhrases without the
poison label. As soon as you label someone, he will resist or live
down to your expectation.
- Do you ever use AbsoluteVicious Venom Poison Phrases
that maim? When you speak in absolutes, you attempt to stack
the deck in your favor. It might work in the short run, but in
the long run it will stack against you. Avoid phrases that include
always
never
every time
everything
It is rare that someone is always late and he will resist your
suggestion that he is. It is an unusual person who never is sup-
portive. If you claim he is, you will create resistance. It is excep-
tional that we can say something happens every time, and
usually our complaints about everything overlook some things
that are appropriate. So forget the absolutes and be more spe-
cific and factual.
- Do NegativeVicious Venom Poison Phrases that maim
find their way into your vocabulary? Do you talk more about
what you don’t want than what you want? Do you talk more
about what you are trying to avoid than what you are trying to
create? Passive Negative Respect-Robbing Phrases that weaken