THE POWER OF LOVE
When our hearts are open and we love, respect, and appreciate
our partners, we are capable of supporting them even when
they are not as perfect as we might have thought in earlier
stages. Spiritual chemistry gives us the power to overcome the
judgments, doubts, demands, and criticism we may sometimes
experience. Even if our hearts temporarily close down, we can
more easily find our way back to that love with the solid
foundation of many loving and positive experiences.
Through repeatedly coming back to love, you will eventually
gain the confidence and self-assurance necessary to pick your
special partner for life in stage four. After getting married, you
will be prepared when the big challenges of a relationship
arise. Instead of going through the power struggles many
couples experience, you will be able to draw on that spiritual
chemistry to find the right compromise, to apologize when
necessary, and to forgive your partner for not being perfect.
THE STRATEGY OF STAGE FOUR
In this fourth stage the strategy is slowly to become more in-
timate, revealing more and more of who you are. This is the
time to relax more and just get to know each other. It is not
necessary to keep up your guard and be as positive as in other
stages.
A woman can open up more and communicate how she feels
even when she is not in a good mood. It is fine for her to talk
about the things that she doesn’t like in her life and in the rela-
tionship. It is sometimes even better for her to interact with
her partner when she is not in a good mood. She does not al-
ways have to be so positive when they are together.
This is a great relief for a woman. Now she can turn to her
partner and share her vulnerable side; she can relax and be the
rest of who she is. As she is able to share more of herself, how
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