When a man is unwilling to consider
his mistakes, a woman will dwell on
his mistakes until he does.A relationship thrives when a man focuses on correcting his
behavior to be more considerate and the woman focuses on
correcting her attitude toward his behaviors. By practicing
forgiveness, a woman discovers her power to bring out the
best in a man and herself. By finding the forgiving part of
herself, a woman will connect with her most loving self.
THE PERFECT TIME TO PRACTICE
Engagement is the perfect time to practice giving apologies
and finding forgiveness. Certainly it would be easier for the
woman to do all the accommodating and apologizing and the
man to be easygoing and forgiving, but they would not be
prepared for marriage. Too often married women complain
that their husbands never apologize, while married men com-
plain that their wives are unforgiving and punishing and
never forget anything they do wrong.
To correct this tendency we need to nip it in the bud. A man
in stage five does not mind making apologies. This is primarily
because he hasn’t experienced years of being blamed and rejec-
ted for his mistakes. In stage five, he still anticipates being
forgiven. That is why this is the best time for him to practice.
When a man focuses on his mistakes
and not hers, he discovers a tremendous
power to make her happy.STAGE FIVE: ENGAGEMENT / 115