YOU SAY SHE FEELS
That’s right, he did overreact.
Wow, he is being so respons-
ible. I am really impressed. We
probably both overreacted, but
he admitted it. That is really
good. He really did go away
and think about our conversa-
tion. He knows how I must
feel.... Well, he wasn’t so aw-
ful. I can forgive him.“I’m sorry about the things I
said yesterday...I thought
about it and realized that I was
really overreactive...”Hmm, he really gets it. I guess
he really isn’t as insensitive as
I thought. Maybe he does care
about me. I can forgive him for
that. I don’t need him to call
me all the time.“I’m sorry I didn’t call you
back sooner. You’re right; I
was really insensitive.”It sure was. He didn’t even
think of me, he just thought
about himself.... Hmm, maybe
he isn’t as self-absorbed as I
thought. He doesn’t have to do
everything I want. A relation-
ship is give-and-take. I can
forgive him.“I’m sorry that I forgot to get
the tickets. It was really selfish
of me.”That’s right, it was inconsider-
ate and it was mean.... In a
way, he’s really very consider-
ate to realize that. I can forgive
him. I’m sure he didn’t mean
to leave me alone.“I’m sorry you felt excluded at
the party.... I was inconsiderate,
it was really mean.”122 / JOHN GRAY, PH.D.