YOU SAY SHE FEELS
He was being defensive. I
thought he didn’t hear a word
I said. I guess I was wrong. He
is trying to hear what I am
saying. I can forgive him. At
least he cares enough to try to
understand me.“I am really sorry about the
things I said. I was really being
defensive.”In these six examples, the man apologized using one or more
of these six nadjectives: inconsiderate, insensitive, selfish, mean,
defensive, and overreactive. These are the six most important.
Certainly a man can come up with others, but these will do.
A woman never gets tired of hearing these nadjectives after
a sincerely felt apology. It is like saying “Thank you,” “Good
idea,” “That makes sense,” or “Thank you for your patience”
to a man. He never gets tired of hearing these phrases.
HOW TO FORGIVE A MAN
Just as it is important for a man to find the right words to
apologize on Venus, it is equally important for a woman to
express her forgiveness in a manner that works best on Mars.
Just to say “I forgive you” can be taken by some men to be a
put-down. If you express a receptive attitude that accepts a
man even though clearly he made a mistake, he then feels most
forgiven. These are some examples of phrases that can send a
man to Martian heaven:
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