She confuses his attention, interest, and attraction with affection
or love. When this “love” is not lasting and he quickly loses
interest, a woman can easily feel disappointed and unnecessar-
ily begin to mistrust men. Unless she learns how men and
women think and feel differently, she may become closed to
men and thus limit her chances of finding the right man for
her. Without this crucial understanding, dating for many wo-
men is a very dissatisfying and discouraging experience.
Women commonly confuse a man’s interest
as the intention to pursue a relationship.Certainly when a man is attentive to a woman, he could also
be interested in having a relationship with her, but quite often
he is not that discerning. To a certain extent, when he is enam-
ored of a woman, he just likes what he sees and he wants to
touch. Then he behaves in ways that most women mistakenly
assume to be clear signs and signals that he is interested in
having a relationship.
A MAN’S PASSIONS
Without even considering what kind of person a woman is, a
man can feel a strong, passionate desire to be with her. Then,
once he gets to know her, he may find that he doesn’t even
like her, nor is he interested in getting to know her better. Yet
when he sees her he feels a strong physical chemistry and will
do almost anything for the opportunity to be with her, impress
her, and make her happy. As he gets to know her, his interest
and affection may quickly dissipate.
This is commonly known as the morning-after syndrome.
One day she is beautiful and radiant in every way; the next
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