make it clear to her that he is more special. When a shy man
postpones the kiss, it may actually postpone or even prevent
a woman from feeling her physical chemistry for him.
Sometimes it is a man’s kiss that triggers in a
woman her feelings of physical attraction.Many of the traditional dating rituals between men and
women are really just opportunities for a woman to assess her
feelings for a man. When a man does little things for a woman,
like open the door, compliment her, ask her out, plan a date,
or even give her a good-night kiss, it allows her gradually to
experience different levels of chemistry.
WHEN WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO THE WRONG MEN
Sometimes a woman meets a man and suddenly feels all four
levels of chemistry. She particularly feels an immediate phys-
ical passion for him. This is a clear sign that this woman is at-
tracted to her fantasy of the man and not the man himself.
When this is the case, a woman needs to learn to be more dis-
cerning. If she feels strong physical attraction, she should not
immediately assume that the man is right for her. Although
there is a chance he could be right for her because she is turned
on immediately, it is a clear sign that she does not yet know
him. She is attracted to the illusion of who she thinks he is.
If a woman has a history of being turned on to the wrong
guys, then when she enters a room with thirty men and one
man turns her on like a blowtorch, she should run the other
way. If she does choose to engage in a relationship with him,
she should be very careful to get to know him before she be-
comes intimate.
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