more time to get to know him. She is finally now married to
her soul mate and is very happy.
Each time you choose to move through the stages of dating,
you are in effect fine-tuning your ability to attract the right
person for you. By working to make a relationship work at
each stage and by ending relationships without resentment or
guilt, you are paving the way toward a great relationship. Each
one of these choices will increase your discernment.
REALIZING THE POTENTIAL OF A RELATIONSHIP
Correctly understanding the way men and women think and
feel differently doesn’t ensure that any relationship will move
through all five stages, but it does allow us to correctly assess
a relationship. Too many times, we reject each other not be-
cause we have found that a person is wrong for us, but because
we believed something was wrong with that person. By ending
relationships with a more loving and nonjudgmental attitude,
we will continue to be attracted to the people who are closer
to what we want. With this understanding we find that we
become less picky and more open to the potential of a relation-
ship.
We reject each other not because we have
found that a person is wrong for us, but
because we think—mistakenly—there is
something wrong with that person.Even with a more accurate understanding of our differences
we unknowingly sabotage the attraction in a relationship by
switching roles. It is vital for the growth of romance and attrac-
tion that the man in a relationship maintain the
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