11 The Dynamics of Male and Female Desire
Women mistakenly follow the advice that if you want
someone to be interested in you, you should be interested in
him. This advice works for men who want a woman’s interest,
but it doesn’t work the other way around. When a woman is
really interested in a man, he tends to become more interested
in himself. If she listens attentively, he will generally talk more.
If she seeks to please his every need, he will gladly let her know
what more she can do.
This man is not a hopeless case. He is simply from Mars. His
major focus is just different from a woman’s. One approach is
not better than the other. A woman is most fulfilled when her
needs are met, while a man is fulfilled primarily through being
successful in fulfilling her. Understanding this fundamental
difference can give both men and women the answers to many
questions that come up while dating.
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