direct manner. Since men like to be acknowledged for what
they do, a man may do the same for her and miss the chance
to let her feel his attraction for her.
Instead of focusing on what a woman does or how she makes
him feel, he should ideally focus on finding positive adjectives
and nouns to describe her directly. It is fine to talk about what
she has done, but it should always include a statement about
her. That is how she can feel his affection the most and it is
another way she gets to know him best.
A woman is most reassured in the way a man sees her and
compliments her. A woman will feel most attracted to a man
when he makes his compliments personal and direct, while a
man will feel most attracted to a woman when her compliments
are less direct and more about how she feels in response to
what he has done, thought, decided, or provided. Let’s explore
this difference.
DIRECT COMPLIMENTS
(Best to Give Women)INDIRECT COMPLIMENTS
(Best to Give Men)
I am having a wonderful time.You are so wonderful.
I had so much fun. You are so much fun.
That was a great movie. You have great taste in movies.
This restaurant is fantastic. You are a fantastic cook.
This band is great. You are a great dancer.
This was such a perfect even-Your smile is so perfect.
ing.
I really enjoy talking with you.You are so interesting.
I really like spending timeYou are so easy to be with.
with you.204 / JOHN GRAY, PH.D.