This tenth approach, however, is generally most applicable
for someone in stage three who wants to break up. He has
taken the time to get to know someone and feels they are not
right for each other.
All of the ten approaches above make it a little easier to move
from relationship to relationship until you find the most special
one for you. These same approaches can also be used by wo-
men to say no politely to a man’s approaches or requests for
a date. Women, however, can just say, “I am not interested in
that kind of relationship with you. I would rather just be
friends.” That is all the explanation a man needs.
To close out a relationship, a woman
can just say, “I am not interested in that
kind of relationship with you. I would
rather just be friends.”This approach is very safe for a woman to use because in
most cases, she (unlike most men) does want to be friends.
Even if she doesn’t really want to be involved much as a friend,
she knows that when she says she just wants to be friends, he
won’t be calling.
THE BENEFITS OF MOVING ON
Although it is only good manners to call and close out a rela-
tionship, there are other benefits as well. The way we close a
relationship determines the kind of person we will be attracted
to next time.
If we must become indifferent to our feelings to end a rela-
tionship, or if we feel some kind of guilt, then we will tend to
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