return the favors he had given her, to help him. She was fine
with this for a while. Women are always happy to give back
what they feel they have received. But after a while she became
very resentful. She was doing things for him and he was doing
nothing for her. He had stopped offering to help.
Maria didn’t understand the real reason Jose stopped offer-
ing his help. He assumed that by now she would know that
he was happy to help. Now that they were closer, he mistakenly
thought that if she wanted his help she would ask for it. When
she didn’t ask, he just assumed that he was giving enough and
she didn’t want any more.
In stage three, a man should remember that a woman feels
most loved and supported when he offers to be of assistance.
It is most romantic for a woman when a man anticipates her
needs and offers to help. Even if she doesn’t need his help at
the time, she will feel supported just because he offered.
It is most romantic for a woman when a man
anticipates her needs and offers to help.While the wise man continues to offer his support, a wise
woman practices asking for support. No matter how perfect a
man is, he is still from Mars. Even if he is deeply in love with
a woman, he will still not instinctively know what a woman
really needs or when he should offer to help. He could be
completely willing but just not know what he should be offer-
ing or when he should be offering it.
A WOMAN’S GREATEST CHALLENGE
In stage three, a woman’s greatest challenge is to practice the
art of asking for support. Women are taught to be desirable,
but not to desire. It is hard for them to ask for more. The
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