biggest mistake a woman makes in stage three is to assume
that now a man will do things without her having to ask.
Women are taught to be desirable
but not to desire.In this stage, a woman must break through this limiting
conditioning to discover that she is actually more desirable
when she expresses her desires. A woman becomes more at-
tractive when a man clearly knows what she wants. He can
then feel confident that he can fulfill her. If she just waits for
him to know the right things, she may be waiting her whole
life.
WHEN TO ASK FOR SUPPORT
The best time to ask for support is when a man stops offering
it. This simple truth can be very confusing to women. When a
man stops offering his support, a woman mistakenly assumes
that this is the worst time to ask. Like Maria, a woman doesn’t
realize that a man may be very willing to help but is waiting
to be asked. Instead of asking for support, she quietly does
something herself or postpones her needs. Although making
sacrifices is a part of a relationship, women tend to make too
many.
When men don’t do the right things, it is because they don’t
know what to do or they don’t realize how important a certain
thing is on Venus. It has little to do with how much or how
little they care. Stage three is the perfect time for a woman to
become more direct and begin asking for support. At this time
it is also the best kind of support she can give a man. Just as a
man’s little romantic efforts reassure a woman that she is spe-
cial, a woman’s little requests encourage him to continue giving
her what she needs.
78 / JOHN GRAY, PH.D.