Model Marriage by Bishop Dag Heward Mills

Model Marriage

8 Reasons for Sex

1. Pleasure (see Chapter 31).


2. Duty (see Chapter 32).


3. Reproduction (see Chapter 36).


4. A way of staying close together as a couple.

The sexual life of a couple is a thermometer of their relationship and love ( see the “sexometer”
below).

(a) When the relationship is healthy and strong, they will have sex frequently e.g.

honeymoon and early period of marriage.

(b) A sign that a couple are no longer close is that they have not had sex for some

time. For example, if a couple has not had sex for 1 month, it is a sure sign that

they are not flowing together. If they have not had sex for 3 months, it is a sign

of serious marital problems.

(c) Quality, excitable sex can prevent promiscuity/adultery.

(d) The biggest sex organ, is the mind.^3

FREQUENCY RELATIONSHIP

Twice a day Typical of a very, very happy relationship --

Relaxation/honeymoon escasty

Daily Typical of a very happy marriage

Every other day

Typical of harmonious marrige, especially in

working couples

Once a week

Typical of marriage experiencing pressures of

life

Twice a month

Typical of diharmonious marriage, especially life

in-between quarrels/storms

Once a month

Typical of a marriage in co-existence --

uninterested in each other

Once two-three months

Typical of a marriage in serious disharmony --

query unfaithfulness/adultery

Once every six months

Typical of a couple in virtual separation and

marital breakdown

Once a year

Typical of total breakdown of marriage and

virtual divorce

Fig. 17: The Sexometer