Chapter 34
Orgasm
Orgasm can be defined as the peak or the climax of sexual excitement.^1 Married couples
should make it an objective to bring their partners to this peak during the sex act. The following
steps will help build up excitement:
(a) Look nice, smell nice and be clean. You may choose to wear clothes (nightwear,
bra and panties, etc.) or not, depending on what your partner finds exciting.
(b) Choose a nice place to have sex, e.g., living room, bathroom, bedroom, bedroom
floor, etc.
(c) Adjust the lights to what suits you––darkness, dim lights or bright lights.
(d) Foreplay should begin with spontaneous endearing conversation accompanied by
loving pats, hugs and kisses.
(e) Gradually the couple should undress each other.
(f) The husband must continue stimulating his wife by kissing and caressing her lips,
thighs, buttocks, clitoris, labia and other parts of her body until she is sexually
excited. This is signalled by an increase in lubrication of the vagina.
(g) The wife should also continue stimulating her husband by rubbing and caressing
the penis (especially the tip) and kissing and caressing his “known” sensitive
areas.
(h) Let your partner know which movements stimulate you or distract you.NOTE: Excitement is slower to reach its peak in a woman and lasts longer than in a man. The
woman’s build-up of excitement can be compared to the heating of an electric iron, whereas that
of the man can be compared to the switching on of an electric bulb.
(i) At the point where the husband judges that his wife is at the height of her
excitement, penetration can occur. One of the pleasurable parts of sexual
intercourse is the feeling of the man’s penis entering the vagina.