Model Marriage by Bishop Dag Heward Mills

(Darren Dugan) #1

Model Marriage



  1. Create a peaceful atmosphere with music, candlelights and good scheduling of
    domestic events.

  2. Give the phlegmatic spouse plenty of advance notice about upcoming events. If
    there’s one thing they cannot stand, it is a sudden change of plans. For example,
    he/she may have his/her heart set on sitting and watching TV and suddenly you
    spring up a dinner party at the Joneses. They are generally slow to warm up to an
    idea, and need to prepare themselves ahead of time.

  3. Allow him to relax and don’t see the relaxation as laziness. It is an emotional
    need.

  4. Praise them––this is the key that can really turn your relationship. Start noticing
    their fine qualities and begin expressing sincere praise and honest appreciation for
    them. As you do, they will eventually begin to rest more securely in your
    relationship and believe that you are serious about your words.

  5. If you are married to a phlegmatic, remember to build up their self-worth and calm
    their fears and give them the peaceful moments they need. They need you to build
    their self-worth with loving re-assurance instead of criticizing and belittling them.

  6. Reassure them that they are valuable human beings even if they do not accomplish
    anything of great value according to the world’s standards. Your easy-going
    spouse may never achieve the sort of success the world applauds. That is why
    they need your applause so much.

  7. Frequently remind them of their wonderful qualities; that people love them; that
    they are loyal and hardworking.

  8. Ask God to really help you believe in your phlegmatic husband or wife if you are
    married to one because they may not seem big on the accomplishments but they
    will have substance.

  9. As you genuinely show that you believe in phlegmatics they will come to believe
    in themselves and others will believe in them too.

  10. Give loving motivation––Don’t nag at them.^6


Notes


  1. Tim LaHaye, Opposites Attract(Eastbource: Kingsway Publications, 2000), 129 - 144.

  2. Florence Littauer, Personality Plus(Grand Rapids, Michigan: Baker Book House), 68 -



  3. Stormie Omartian, The Power of a Praying Wife (Eugene, Oregon: Harvest House
    Pub.,1997), 1 - 20.

  4. Ibid., 105 - 6.

  5. Ibid., 87 - 88.

  6. Ibid., 124 - 5.

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