Model Marriage by Bishop Dag Heward Mills

Communication in Marriage

3. Choose to speak life.

Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the

fruit thereof.

Proverbs 18:21

(a) Speak good things about your spouse, e.g. “I love you, you are wonderful, you

look sweet, your food was good, you look charming”, etc.

(b) Confess positive things about your marriage.

(c) Express your love to each other verbally.

(d) Speak about things that you do/do not like.

(e) Speak to edify.^2

Speak the Truth

1. Speak the truth, and be transparent to each other.

And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

Genesis 2:25

2. If we are allowed to think about these things, then we can say them.

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest,

whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are

lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there

be any praise, think on these things.

Philllipians 4:8

3. Do not pretend. The truth will show up later, but it may be too late.

Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is

good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.

Ephesians 4:29

Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how

ye ought to answer every man.

Colossians 4:6