Model Marriage by Bishop Dag Heward Mills

Chapter 21

Problem-Solving in Marriage

Introduction

The home is a garden. Weeds keep cropping up in a garden that must be constantly removed,
so that our planted seeds can grow well. Every normal marriage has problems and challenges. It
is only when there is a fire that you see which of the sticks around you is actually a snake.

And when Paul had gathered a bundle of sticks, and laid them on the fire, there

came a viper out of the heat...

Acts 28:3

In other words, in times of trouble, the character of a spouse shows clearly.

But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not

sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.

1 Corinthians 7:28

Remember the prayer of St. Francis Xavier:
“God grant me the courage to change the things I can change; the serenity to accept the things
I cannot change and the wisdom to know the difference.”