And if aggressiveness has already been aroused in us, what can we do
to free ourselves from malaise without harming anybody?
There is a form of relief through which malaise is released without
harming others, that is by expressing how we feel, by admitting what
has been aroused in us, and explaining the reasons why it has been
aroused. It would have to be with somebody who is not the person
with whom we have the problem, to avoid harming him or her,
preferably somebody who is renowned for being a pacific person, who
does not allow him or herself to be controlled by aggressiveness, in
whom we can also trust. Only by expressing malaise can we feel
alleviated, more serene and reasonable, and sufficiently released from
the malaise brought about by aggressiveness. Later, when we are
calmer, we can try to speak to the person with whom we have had
some conflict in order to find a solution. But we must look for the way
and the moment to do it, never when we are filled with anger or rage,
because then we could do a lot of damage, the same or more than
he or she has done to us.
Sadness, hopelessness, bitterness, desperation, resignation**.**
Sadness is an emotional state of depression and low morale. It so
happens that sadness is usually aroused for the same reasons and
circumstances as aggressiveness, but when the person is or is being
more sensitive. For this reason it is more difficult to detect, because it is
less evident that sadness can come from egoism. In fact, the feelings
of impotence, guilt, and sometimes rage and desperation are actually
a mixture of aggressiveness and sadness. Sadness can appear when
spiritual beings become weak, or are discouraged through not seeing
the results of their search or because these results were not as they had
anticipated. Several variants of sadness exist, each with their own
peculiarities. Bitterness is a chronic long-lasting sadness, which does not
impede carrying out daily tasks in life, but is very deeply ingrained
within us, is very difficult to overcome, and gives the impression that
the person is slowly dying of sadness. It is closely related to despair and
resignation, which are forms of sadness characterised by the lack of a
reason to fight, to live, this being generally motivated by a
circumstance which the person fails to assimilate. An extreme case of
acute and intense sadness is despair, which prevents people from
carrying out any normal task in their lives and can lead them to
become psychically unbalanced and to commit extremely pernicious
acts, such as putting an end to their own life or that of others.
I did not expect you to consider sadness to be an egoistic feeling.
Well it is. It is very normal for us to feel sad from time to time. But when