I Can Read You Like a Book : How to Spot the Messages and Emotions People Are Really Sending With Their Body Language

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E The Holistic View 129

To begin, there are three parts to looking at the holistic body
language of a person.



  1. Energy: How lively is the person? Does she look
    tired or invigorated? Is it normal or abnormal? When
    I say “energy,” I am talking from head to toe, and
    even more than that. Bill Clinton has energy that
    showed even after his heart surgery. If I were to see
    that energy fail, it indicates that something is going on
    in his head to cause a downward shift.

  2. Direction: Is the energy this person displays free-
    wheeling, all over the board? Is it sharply aimed at a
    common goal? Temper this perception with what is
    normal for the person. You cannot, for instance, look
    once at someone who is scatterbrained and assume
    there is a root cause other than genes.

  3. Focus: Is the energy focused internally or externally?
    Is the person directed at getting away from some-
    thing, or simply disconnected from those around him?
    This can tell us more about the mental state of someone
    than the other two combined.
    These three, primary criteria form the foundation of this new
    system for looking holistically at a person. They serve as big-chunk
    categories in analyzing behavior. I’m going to wrap them in a simple
    label: mood indicators. Combined with the scalp-to-sole list and the
    checklist on posture that follows, you can get close to clarifying the
    meaning of a person’s body language.

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