40 BODY LANGUAGE SECRETSpened in the blink of an eye. Men and women to-
day may be wearing suits and carrying brief-
cases, but we still respond to the same instincts
and concerns that we developed over eons of
time. Though our instincts have not changed, our
expectations have.
To make matters even more complicated, we
are constantly bombarded by images of perfect
relationships in movies, on TV and in advertise-
ments. Therefore, we measure ourselves against
an impossible criteria.
There is much more information on how our ani-
mal nature influences us during courtship. How-
ever, that topic does not belong here. It will distract
us. For those interested, in natural sex, see NOTE 3
in the Appendix.
The next stage is to open courtship negotiations
(persuade her) by following the Commandments Of
Meeting.
NOTE 2
There are passive men and there are women who seek them.
They are part of the courtship and dating universe. See
ABNORMAL HAPPENS in the Appendix to find out why
some people are not capable of taking part in a normal,
natural man-woman relationship.
NOTE 3
Once we understand how much of our behavior is not subject
to our will power, it is far easier to relax and enjoy the
timeless, wonderful rituals of courtship. See SEX IS NUM-
BER FOUR in the Appendix.Once negotiations begin
it's only a matter of time before castle walls
crumble or maidenhead breached.
CHURCHILLCommandments
Of Meeting
As stated in the Preface, on most occasions, the
man must do something to get things started. So,
men, here are the facts. Nearly every woman you
approach wants the same things.
SEVEN THINGS WOMEN WANT
(1) Don't be pushy, I'm not good at telling peo-
ple to buzz off.
(2) Don't be obvious, although I may be inter-
ested, I don't want everyone to know.
(3) Even if this is fun and exciting, I may be a
bit nervous.
(4) Don't show you're nervous, it makes me
nervous. Be casual, friendly and relaxed. It'll
help me stay that way.
(5) Keep the conversation superficial, further
into it, leave a few openings for me to tactfully
indicate if I want to continue or not.
(6) Later on, when I'm more sure of myself,
don't ask for too much. Give me room to ma-
neuver to save face, mine and yours.
(7) If I turn you down, don't act like a jerk be-
cause you started this.