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most of the books published each year. Consider books on romance. Romance generated
$1.52 billion in sales in 2001, romance fiction comprising 18% of all books sold and 54% of all
popular paperback fiction sold in America. Of these readers, 93% were women, and half of them
were married. (*Source: http://www.rwanational.org Industry Statistics.)
There has been a distinct shift in American culture, a more feminized approach, if you
will. Not all of this is bad, but the parts that delude men into believing that what women want is a
man with female sensitivity are complete hogwash. We’ll discuss what a Nice Guy is, and why
he will not survive for a swim in the next gene pool.
I can’t tell you how many looks of astonishment I get from people when they find out I’m
in the dating advice field – from both women and men. They laugh, they test me, and they try to
challenge my conviction about why advice for dating is necessary. When I ask them how their
dating life is, I hear that familiar silence that screams the obvious: They’re not dating anyone,
and/or they desperately want to know how to do better. Of course most often they
rationalize their situation away, as if their current dry spell is on purpose. Yeah, they want to be
single and sleeping alone. I nod and smile, laughing to myself.
I am on a mission ...I want to change your life.That’s right. I want to change your life – for the better. That’s why I’m here, and that’s
why I sweat this stuff every day. I’ve been there. I’ve been on countless dates from hell. I’ve had
lonely nights, sitting at home, choking down imported beers and watching “Predator” for the
umpteenth time and wondering why I’m not sleeping with a woman this year. I’ve sat there in
teary-eyed frustration, tearing my hair out by the roots as I ask myself “Why? Why? Why is she
doing this to me?” I’ve had the extraordinary pain, as well as the extraordinary success, and I’m
here to tell you that success is better. That alone is worth the price of change, and I aim to
provide you with understanding and tools to make it possible. I want you to become a Dynamic
Man.
I’ve read the books, every one I could get hold of from the Pundits. From John Gray to
Barbara DeAngelis. I learned what I could, but they never really told me the Truth.
Then, it came to me, like Moses stumbling on the burning bush, and it was as profound a
religious experience. The revelation was simple, and it was to change everything I thought
about dating and women.
Stop deluding myself by what should be, and do what WORKS. Results are all that matters.There is no consolation prize that feels as good as winning. (And, yes, you can
accomplish this all with integrity, character, and honor.)
So, I went on to more dates, more good and bad relationships, but now something had
changed. I was more in control of what I did, and my self-confidence shot through the roof.
Women were no longer intimidating to me. I started to share advice with family and friends, and