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words in your speech.
Here are a few sensory words:
- Passion
- Intense/intensity
- Excitement
- Sensual
- Tingling
- Heartbeat
- Pleasure
- Comfortable
- Heat
- Trusting
- Radiant
- Trance
- Enthrall
- Attraction
- Soothing
Just don’t use too many of these at one time, or you’ll risk coming off sounding like a
sappy romance novel. Tie the use of these charged words together with the Romance Intrigue
questions to gain added effect.
At some point, you should also learn what her modality of learning is: auditory,
kinesthetic, or visual. Most people have a preferred sense when it comes to their learning style,
using their hearing, their sight, or their touch in some way to learn and understand new material.
We use them all at one point or another, but just about everyone has one they use most of the
time. You can figure out which modality it is by listening to how they describe things. Here are a
few examples:
- “That just doesn’t feel right to me.” “Oh, that sounds so cold and depressing.” “I can’t
come to grips with that.”
This person is typically a kinesthetic learner. Recognize her by the tactile words she
uses. She learns by doing or touching. Probably likes handholding and hugging to
establish security. - “That just doesn’t click.” “That just doesn’t sound right.” “I hear what you’re saying.”
These keywords tip you off that she is mostly auditory. The words that highlight
hearing are used most frequently. She learns by hearing instructions. Probably very
suggestive. - “I see what you’re saying.” “That’s not the way I see it.” “Looks good to me.”
And this person is showing a disposition to visual modes of learning. Even when
referring to words or sounds, she will use the word “see” as in the first example. She
learns by seeing, or reading instructions with diagrams. She is probably very fashion
conscious.